As I slow down and reflect, I realize I have been on a very long journey. (One that, hopefully, will continue for many years to come!)
For the better part of 5 decades, I lived an amazing life. I have a wonderful husband who I have been married to for over 25 years, and two young adult sons who are the light of my life.
Our finances have (mostly) been healthy; we have a beautiful home in a gorgeous location and we make time to enjoy life and each other. I have close friends and had a tremendously satisfying and varied career. I have been spiritually fed and over time I have learned to cultivate gratitude and patience.
Of course, nothing is perfect, I have lost both my beloved parents, and have endured the agony of watching my youngest child struggle with chronic illnesses. But I have always believed life is what we make of it – that we choose our attitude. This served me well for many, many years.
A few years ago, the combination of losing my dad very suddenly, dealing with a prematurely empty nest, and a significant personal crisis in my career rocked my world and shook me out of my complacency.
When I landed, I was lost and lonely.
I embarked on a journey of self-discovery that frequently brought me to my knees with unexpected opportunities for growth and the sheer joy of what is possible when we let go of our tethers.
Understanding came late in my life, but I finally realized that no matter our chronological age:
All our life experiences have uniquely prepared us for THIS moment.
We are all absolutely where we are supposed to be, right now.
There was a part of me that had always suspected this to be true. I was the first to chime “things happen for a reason” during conversations with others. But I had no idea how true it really is.
As I gave myself permission to remember who I was and why I was here I asked many questions. And wonderful, gifted teachers appeared along the way with the answers I sought.
I came to embrace the sacred responsibility which I believe we all share:
Our life’s purpose is discovering our unique gifts and sharing them with others.
The journey of self-discovery isn’t easy – and it isn’t hard. It is, however, the most rewarding journey of all.
If you aren’t sure what your purpose is – I encourage you to be intentional in your efforts to discover it.
- Reconnect with your core values. Can you name your top 5?
- Determine what motivates you to do your best. Recognition? Influence? Accomplishment? There are no right or wrong answers.
- Identify your strengths. Are you a creator? A planner? A creative strategist? What are your good at?
- What are you passionate about? What are your hobbies?
Your purpose resides in the area where these overlap.If you aren’t sure, ask. Out loud. In writing. Ask what you need to learn to discover your purpose.
Then wait and watch. Listen. The answers will come.
You will know you are on the right path when your heart begins to sing – and fear will show up too. This is often how you know you are on your growing edge.
Many of us choose to express our life’s purpose through our work – which is a beautifully satisfying expression.
I knew I had chosen the right path (or perhaps it chose me?) when I discovered this quote:
“Most people die with their music still trapped inside.”
Reading it now, I still feel an ache inside to help others release their music.
I know without a doubt my mission is to help entrepreneurs be successful in their mission. I know the stats – 8 out of 10 businesses fail – and I know I have to do something about it.
Most people go into business because they are passionate about their purpose – not because they have a passion for business. But business IS my passion. After months of wandering, with that quote, I knew I was home.
Knowing this is my purpose keeps me going every day. The journey isn’t easy, as you know and if it were, everyone would be doing it. When we stay focused on the possibility and the promise – on the abundance of life – the pieces fall into place.
Trust the process.
I would love to learn about your passion, your purpose! Please leave your comments below.